Like many of you, I work alongside a mixture of blood-related family and long-term loyal employees. We are all juggling to try to take the time to “enjoy” the holidays, closing the year off on a high, building strategies for next year, and wondering if or when we will find a breath. It is a time of fun and stress, all mixed like your favorite holiday dish.
When the pressures and the ho-hum of juggling it all during the holiday begins to throw me off, I have some secrets that I keep close. There are four, of which the first two I shared in the last article. A quick overview of these includes practicing the pause and your locus of control. There are two more I want to share with you to help you enjoy the holiday season and time with family:
- Arrive Grounded. Arriving at your best is easier said than done, especially when it feels like you are running from one business meeting to the next holiday party. Some may consider meditation or additional rest. Whatever you choose, you have to set the time and strategy that work best for you. It may be taking a walk, fresh air, or an “it’s time to go” plan.
Often, we get thrown off our game by believing what people think or the stereotypes we have outgrown, but others cannot let go of yet. If you relate to this scenario, create a Belief Table to re-connect to your strengths today versus believing who people think you are. Listen to the quick explanation of making and arriving grounded in your own beliefs: Belief Table.
- Practice “The Four Agreements:” The book has been transformational in personal, family, and business relationships. The two that inspire me most are not taking things personally and not making assumptions. So often, in our interactions with others, we often want to create our own story, fill in the blanks based upon what we “believe” they are thinking. However, we don’t know what they are thinking, which generally means we have fabricated something and the worse part is we are feeling stress and anxiety about something that likely isn’t even real.
Listen in to learn more about these two secrets, as well as the two I shared in the last article here.
It is common to feel anxiety around the holidays, especially in a family business environment. But, you can find the MAGIC; it is very close by because it is found in YOU; knowing what you can and can’t control and choosing how you want to show up.